Mean what you say...

Before you say something to your child make sure you are going to follow through or...don't say it and don't do it! If you come home tired and you are irritated that your child did not clean their dishes and you say, "Johnny, remember, I need you to clean the dishes before you log on to the computer or there will be no computer privilege tonight." How many times have you said this, but then let your teen use the computer because you are too tired to argue with them? Kids know when you are not serious especially if you have shown this pattern of inconsistency. Be sure if you deliver a request, expectation, or demand to your child that you are prepared to deliver the reward, or withhold the reward in the end. Learn more about this strategy using the Gaining Compliance Video at www.smp4kids.com.

Parenting Tip!

For every one negative interaction you have with your child, it will take 8 positive interactions to counteract the effects of the negative one. So work to keep that bond intact parents! Interact positively with your children as often as possible each and every day :)

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Praise Your Child :)

It's not what you say but how you say it. Remember this when praising your child, you want to praise your child to recognize and acknowledge when they do things well, it helps to build up those behaviors and make them occur more often. Sound excited and sincere, make sure your voice tone, facial expressions and body language all send the same unified message.

Many parents find it difficult to praise their children, they report feeling "fake" or annoyed so much of the time that it is hard for them to take this first step. However, parents must continually work to keep their parent-child relationship on the right track, recognize the gifts your child possesses. Even if you have to start be recognizing "quiet walking"...we all have to start somewhere. Recognize and feel thankful that your child DID make their bed today, or that the sink in the bathroom is clean, or they are using a quiet voice in the house! These are terrific accomplishments and they are a starting point, they are the platform for you to jump from. Each positive and believable interaction you have with your child will start to repair or enhance the relationship. Once the relationship is getting better, the next steps will come so much easier.

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Positive attention from a parent is the biggest reward to a child, regardless of what they may say.

We all like to be recognized for a job well done. This should be done frequently throughout the day and specific to what they have done, i.e., "great job making your bed today!"
What this will do for your child is to build their self-esteem and increase their value of self. When people notice and pay attention to what the child has accomplished, it reinforces all the behaviors they have engaged in to get THERE…and this makes it more likely that the child will engage in those behaviors again in the future as it paid off so well for them this time.

Cultivating and building a solid self esteem and self value are so important in the modern world. Children are faced with too many social pressures, when they have a solid self value they are able to assert their position and make good, solid and educated decisions without worry or fear of peer impressions.
As parents we are not ever going to be at our child’s side all the time, so our job is to build them up and teach them well so they feel like we are on their shoulder at all times…their guardian angel constantly there in presence assisting their decision making process.

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Welcome to the Secrets of Modern Parenting

Hello, and welcome! You are probably wondering how you ended up in this blog. Well the truth is that you were probably looking for some advice, some answers or some guidance in how to become a better communicator with your kids.

We already know that you are a great parent and that you want the best for your kids. But that doesn't mean that sometimes you feel frustrated when communication with your kids is not always possible. Sometimes it seems like there's no harmony at home.

Well, maybe you ended in the right blog. We invite you to visit this blog constantly as we post advice in how to become a better communicator with your kids.

We also invite you to check out our website http://www.smp4kids.com. There you will find some useful tools that will help accomplish harmony at home.

Just to give you a quick overview of who we are...

The Secrets of Modern Parenting
We are certified experts in behavior analysis. We have carefully designed and developed an interactive educational course for parents, based on 30 years of parenting research so that you can communicate better with their children creating peace at home.

Learn how to manage your children's behavior problems. Secrets of Modern Parenting (SMP) is your answer to a peaceful and happy home!

You can watch the video previews. Click on the following link
http://advantagebehavioralgroup.com/index.php/parenting-video-previews

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We invite you to come back to this blog as we will be posting tips and advice on effective communication at home.

Thank you for visiting!

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