The Secrets of Modern Parenting

Tasks

2010-09-02T07:13:00.001-07:00

As parents we need to keep in mind how difficult a task is that we are asking our child to do based on their current ability. Make sure your expectations are attainable at first; you want to be sure that the child gains access to the reinforcer on a daily basis in the beginning to establish or strengthen the frequency and accuracy of the behavior. Please visit us at www.smp4kids.com to share your stories!

Focus on Today

2010-09-01T09:09:00.001-07:00

Many of you may be thinking that you didn’t turn out too bad, in fact we hear all the time, “well my parents raised me this way and I turned out OK” well that was yesterday, we are focusing on today, we live in a much different time and place then yesterday and therefore new skills have evolved to keep up with the pace of the modern world, today’s world. Please visit www.smp4kids.com and share your stories!

The Key to Modern Parenting

2010-08-31T06:35:00.001-07:00

The key to Modern Parenting is learning how to manage your child’s behavior by guiding and teaching them, over failed attempts to control or have power over them. Once you learn this philosophy, you simply apply the techniques consistently, on a daily basis resulting in a recipe for success not to mention a lot less grey hairs on our part as parents!

Living Happy!

2010-08-27T08:00:00.001-07:00

We don’t see parents who are glowing with love for their children and who relish every minute they get to be a parent to these children. We are on a mission to change this imbalance in homes across America, we want to see happy and healthy families who are so thankful that they get to spend each and every day together and live….happily ever after of course. Please visit us at www.smp4kids.com to share your stories!

Patience

2010-08-26T10:55:00.000-07:00

When you feel like you will lose your mind, you will keep this to yourself; do not lose it in front of your children. Many of us tend to forget our censor at times like this and the ranting just flies out, this is when you remind yourself that these young people are still children and they are on their own journey, you must be their level headed guide. Please visit us at www.smp4kids.com and share your stories!

Voice Tone

2010-08-25T11:10:00.001-07:00

It’s not what you say, but how you say it. So remember this when praising your child. Remember to sound excited and be sure your facial expression and voice tone send the same message.

Guardian Angel

2010-08-24T14:26:00.001-07:00

As parents we are not ever going to be at our child's side all the time, so our job is to build them up and teach them well so they feel like we are on their shoulder at all times...their guardian angel constantly there in presence assisting their decision making process.

Get moving...

2010-08-20T13:55:00.001-07:00

Do something new with your child this weekend!

Go to the beach, or hiking or camping! Children learn from models and parents are the biggest models in their life. We tell them that they can do anything in life so why not show them? Make it happen!

Eating healthy foods a battle?

2010-08-19T13:52:00.001-07:00

Does your child hate to eat anything healthy? They can’t eat anything healthy unless you expose them to it. It takes about 30 tastes before one can determine if they like a certain food. Repeated exposures to new foods will increase the likelihood that your child will eat new foods. Check out www.smp4kids.com and view the video on Gaining Compliance for tips!

Timing is everything....

2010-08-18T13:58:00.001-07:00

Time management skills must be taught! When you expect your child to complete any large or aversive task you must give them a time ad day it has to be completed. This will give satisfaction and when the job gets done on time and your child will learn how to manage his/her time to meet your expectations.

Life is too short!

2010-08-17T14:19:00.000-07:00

Life is too short and we can all fall into the hum drum of everyday life. STOP! Some days the dishes, the vacuuming, and the homework can wait. Order in, chill, go on a family bike ride, fly some kites, have a game tournament or watch a movie together. Material things come and go, but what kids really remember are the one on one activities you do together!

Positive Interaction

2010-08-16T11:23:00.001-07:00

For every one negative interaction with your child, it takes 8 positives to counteract and keep a strong bond between parent and child. Please visit our website www.smp4kids.com and share your stories.

Parenting

2010-08-13T11:07:00.000-07:00

Remember there is no magic wand when parenting; you have to say what you do and do what you say. When you commit to changing your parenting style you must do it 100% for it to be effective and maintain! Please visit our website www.smp4kids.com

Positive Reinforcement

2010-08-12T06:50:00.001-07:00

^{Positive attention from a parent is the BIGGEST reward to a child, regardless of what they may say. We all like to be recognized for a job well done. This should be done frequently throughout the day and specific to what they have done, i.e. “Great job making your bed today.”}

Changing Behavior

2010-08-11T10:46:00.000-07:00

It may be second nature to a lot of parents to use punishment, but remember if we want our children to change their behaviors, we have to do some changing as well.

Tip of the day

2010-08-10T17:06:00.000-07:00

Remember it took a few years for your child to learn to behave how they currently do and it will take a few weeks for them to learn a new way...however "old dogs can learn new tricks". Please visit www.smp4kids.com to learn more and share your stories with us.

Mean what you say...

2010-04-27T06:12:00.000-07:00

Before you say something to your child make sure you are going to follow through or...don't say it and don't do it! If you come home tired and you are irritated that your child did not clean their dishes and you say, "Johnny, remember, I need you to clean the dishes before you log on to the computer or there will be no computer privilege tonight." How many times have you said this, but then let your teen use the computer because you are too tired to argue with them? Kids know when you are not serious especially if you have shown this pattern of inconsistency. Be sure if you deliver a request, expectation, or demand to your child that you are prepared to deliver the reward, or withhold the reward in the end. Learn more about this strategy using the Gaining Compliance Video at www.smp4kids.com.

Parenting Tip!

2010-04-23T08:25:00.000-07:00

For every one negative interaction you have with your child, it will take 8 positive interactions to counteract the effects of the negative one. So work to keep that bond intact parents! Interact positively with your children as often as possible each and every day :)

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Praise Your Child :)

2010-04-08T12:44:00.000-07:00

It's not what you say but how you say it. Remember this when praising your child, you want to praise your child to recognize and acknowledge when they do things well, it helps to build up those behaviors and make them occur more often. Sound excited and sincere, make sure your voice tone, facial expressions and body language all send the same unified message.

Many parents find it difficult to praise their children, they report feeling "fake" or annoyed so much of the time that it is hard for them to take this first step. However, parents must continually work to keep their parent-child relationship on the right track, recognize the gifts your child possesses. Even if you have to start be recognizing "quiet walking"...we all have to start somewhere. Recognize and feel thankful that your child DID make their bed today, or that the sink in the bathroom is clean, or they are using a quiet voice in the house! These are terrific accomplishments and they are a starting point, they are the platform for you to jump from. Each positive and believable interaction you have with your child will start to repair or enhance the relationship. Once the relationship is getting better, the next steps will come so much easier.

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Positive attention from a parent is the biggest reward to a child, regardless of what they may say.

2010-04-05T17:43:00.000-07:00

We all like to be recognized for a job well done. This should be done frequently throughout the day and specific to what they have done, i.e., "great job making your bed today!"
What this will do for your child is to build their self-esteem and increase their value of self. When people notice and pay attention to what the child has accomplished, it reinforces all the behaviors they have engaged in to get THERE…and this makes it more likely that the child will engage in those behaviors again in the future as it paid off so well for them this time.

Cultivating and building a solid self esteem and self value are so important in the modern world. Children are faced with too many social pressures, when they have a solid self value they are able to assert their position and make good, solid and educated decisions without worry or fear of peer impressions.
As parents we are not ever going to be at our child’s side all the time, so our job is to build them up and teach them well so they feel like we are on their shoulder at all times…their guardian angel constantly there in presence assisting their decision making process.

To learn more all the steps to creating a peaceful and happy home visit www.smp4kids.com to view course materials and learn all the skills to become a successful modern parent!

Welcome to the Secrets of Modern Parenting

2010-04-01T20:42:00.000-07:00

Hello, and welcome! You are probably wondering how you ended up in this blog. Well the truth is that you were probably looking for some advice, some answers or some guidance in how to become a better communicator with your kids.

We already know that you are a great parent and that you want the best for your kids. But that doesn't mean that sometimes you feel frustrated when communication with your kids is not always possible. Sometimes it seems like there's no harmony at home.

Well, maybe you ended in the right blog. We invite you to visit this blog constantly as we post advice in how to become a better communicator with your kids.

We also invite you to check out our website http://www.smp4kids.com. There you will find some useful tools that will help accomplish harmony at home.

Just to give you a quick overview of who we are...

The Secrets of Modern Parenting
We are certified experts in behavior analysis. We have carefully designed and developed an interactive educational course for parents, based on 30 years of parenting research so that you can communicate better with their children creating peace at home.

Learn how to manage your children's behavior problems. Secrets of Modern Parenting (SMP) is your answer to a peaceful and happy home!

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We invite you to come back to this blog as we will be posting tips and advice on effective communication at home.

Thank you for visiting!

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